Consider letting “Yes, AND” work its magic on you
In this workshop you will discover how to generate more creative ideas in less time, re-think how meetings are structured, deepen listening skills and increase the engagement of stakeholders.
How will you discover this? I will teach you a simple process that requires practice. We will practice together. You will leave being able to teach others!
- Switch from “yes, BUT” to “yes, AND”
- Accept every offer
- Deepen your listening skills
- Make your partner look good
- Create a new story
How to improve workplace communication, make more out of meetings, and boost morale
This workshop will not involve performing on a stage, but will use techniques from the world of improv theater. One of the rules is to accept every offer. To switch from “yes, but” to “yes, AND”. In the world of improv, stifling, rejecting or shutting down an idea is known as “blocking.” Onstage, blocking your partner is not allowed because it stops the story in its tracks and makes your partner look bad. In our workplaces, blocking is common. It doesn’t have to be.
You’ve probably been in a meeting in which someone says, “Time for some problem solving. Let’s hear your ideas.” YOU have an idea, so you speak up. It’s barely out of your mouth when the response is, “That’s a great idea, but it would cost too much.” Or, “GREAT idea, but we tried it a year ago before you were here. Total flop.” And so on. Our “yes, but” muscles get lots more exercise than our “yes, AND” muscles. So much so that many great ideas never see the light of day. What a drag!
Maybe it would cost a lot, but maybe we could be creative in finding some money, if it’s truly a good idea. Maybe we did try this wonderful idea before you came along. And maybe it failed because YOU weren’t here yet. Maybe You have the key!
Let’s not be so quick to shut down possibilities.
The Accept Every Offer process teaches us how to practice listening and collaborating. Switching to “yes, AND” unlocks creative ideas – often from those who tend to be quiet during meetings. It also shifts the mood, builds momentum and boosts morale.
In a brainstorm session, when we “yes, AND” each other, we’re not saying we all agree with every idea. “Yes” does not mean we will, but rather, we might. “Yes” means your idea does not get blocked. It gets to live – at least for now.
Every idea that’s offered is met with “Yes, AND how about if we…” (another idea.) And then the next idea and the next and so on. You’ll find that forbidding the “yes buts” results in many more ideas in less time.
yes is a world
& in this world of
– from “love is a place” by ee cummings
When your idea is met with “yes, AND” there is validation. When we validate your idea (remember, not necessarily agreeing it’s fabulous) we are validating YOU.
Think about that for a minute. Do you regularly feel validated at work? Imagine this evening you ask someone, “How was work?” You’re not likely to hear this in response: “Ugh, am I ever glad to be home! I’m exhausted from being validated so much today!”
In my opinion and in my experience, most workplaces could use more positive communication, more curiosity, more kindness, more listening and more joy. This process improves relationships. It builds respect. It reminds us, as Maya Angelou writes, “We need to remember that we are created creative, and we can invent new scenarios as frequently as they are needed.”
Praise for Peter’s workshops
I have found your DVDs and CDs to be thought provoking & great conversation starters!
Perth, Western Australia
Peter is an excellent motivational speaker for caregivers! He knows how we feel and what we do, and he inspires us to do our best. Bring him back!
Mt. Pleasant, Michigan
I was fortunate enough to have attended a Peter Leidy workshop. I was a bit concerned when I noticed that this consultant, trainer and speaker on human services arrived with only a GUITAR (and what turned out to be a fabulous sense of humor), but after five hours of listening to Peter engage, educate and thoroughly entertain an audience of Direct Support Professionals, consumer/clients and administrators, I became a Peter Leidy follower!
Although I haven’t learned to sing my way through modules, there isn’t one of Peter Leidy’s DVD’s or CD’s that I don’t own or that doesn’t contribute to, educate or lighten up any presentation, including ITP’s, Trauma, Crisis, Behavior, Principles of Instruction, Working in the Home and especially Community Resources.
Ptooey's Educational Services
Wells Beach, Maine
Peter, thanks again for the conference you presented. It was truly one of the most inspiring conferences I’ve attended.
Nebraska Association of Community Professionals
Peter Leidy uniquely combines humor, wisdom, experience, and an occasional song to help us learn ways to strengthen the connections and needed support among people with disabilities and the families, friends, and paid caregivers in their lives. You may borrow him from Wisconsin, but we want him back!
A Simpler Way
I have enjoyed working with Peter Leidy for the past few years. He has spent much of his professional life working with and listening to people who provide direct support. His insights about what our system can do to better support them are illuminating and direct.
And he sings! It is hard for me to imagine anyone better able to sing about the foibles of our service system than Peter Leidy. That’s right — to sing about our historical wrong doings, our professional arrogance, the funny ways we waste our time. And to do it in a way that makes me laugh over and over again.
But that’s not the half of it. In every stanza, in every song, I hear hope about this profession and helping professionals. Peter believes in the likes of you and me. He knows we are capable of helping people to live real lives in ordinary, everyday places. He sings about our potential. He sings about our possibility!
I first met Peter at our annual New Hampshire Direct Support Professional Conference. As the chairperson of the Planning Committee I recommended that we have Peter back for a second year as our keynote speaker because he masterfully validates our work and really ‘walks the talk.’ Peter truly understands what it takes to support people on a daily basis in a meaningful way –and the joyful spirit necessary to do the work well. Peter is an inspirational, insightful and entertaining speaker. Our Direct Support Professionals in NH gave him excellent ratings!
Proud DSP of 22 years
Peter Leidy is a wise guy. In the true sense of the words. Oh, he’s funny enough. He’s got a good voice and can make great music. But the fact he understands the first responsibility of helping professionals is to treat the people they support like fellow human beings, not to get the progress sheets recorded, makes him a rare and wise guy in the world I know.
Thanks for the inspiration, Peter!
Poet and author of You Can Still Go to Hell and Other Truths About Being a Helping Professional
Peter’s singing keynote address at our annual Supported Life Conference received rave reviews from attendees. He’s a great presenter and performer, and his songs are right on target. Peter is also wonderful to work with — organized, professional, and easy-going.
Peter’s many years of experience with individualized supports, and talents as a story teller, inspire staff to look at people with disabilities they support in a whole new light. He helps staff understand new ways of contributing to people’s success as community members.